Subject: Re: Green Card interviews end in handcuffs
Here's the problem: "The attorney assured us that it's O.K." to remain in the country after visa lapsed while awaiting adjustment of status.

No, it's not "O.K."

It's been shown earlier in the thread that it's OK. And here it is:

crisper

Yes, after filing Form I-485 (Application to Register Permanent Residence or Adjust Status), your tourist visa (or other non-immigrant status) expiration no longer matters for your legal stay in the U.S. as you are in a period of authorized stay while the application is pending
. You are permitted to remain in the United States until a decision is made on your I-485.

Please stop talking out of your ass.