No. of Recommendations: 7
Actually, the bathroom thing has always confused me a bit. It seems that one should go to the one that matches your plumbing, not your psychology or DNA. If you're transitioning, but still have -for example- a penis, go to the men's. If you are post-penis, go the women's.
The main reason is safety. If a trans woman goes into the men's room wearing a dress, heels, make-up, and other gender normative female clothing and accessories, she's at serious risk of getting her a$$ kicked by the men in there. If Laverne Cox walked into a mens room, it would cause a serious</> problem. Similarly, if a trans man - wearing men's clothing, perhaps a beard or other facial hair - goes into the female bathroom, she's likely to get turned into management or the authorities by people who are upset that a man has gone into the ladies room. You end up with a horrible situation for the trans person.
And you're not making things any safer. You're not avoiding any harms compared to the other situation. When trans women go into the ladies room and trans men go into the mens room, it almost invariably results in....nothing. No one notices, no one pays any attention. A person who has the external appearance of a woman goes into a ladies room stall and does her business; a person who has the external appearance of a man goes into a men's room stall and does his business. Far less risk, danger, and disruption to the social order for all concerned to let people use the bathroom of the gender identity they've transitioned into.
Albaby
