Being trans or being gay is a choice.

With respect the argument I see surrounding this sentence is not a very good one. I believe it is highly likely there's a genetic component to being gay, lesbian, bi, or trans, and I'm not sure what anything else is.

So I believe it's highly likely there is no choice at all, the person is just accepting what they are. So acceptance - not choice. Highly likely. I admit there's a possibility it's not genetic, but I'll wait till we know for that (not in my lifetime, eh?). :)

I had a discussion with a friend who pointed to the T'Boli in Mindanao, saying they had no gays - proof there's no genetic component. Within 3 minutes I found an article about a gay man leaving the T'Boli area because he was being ridiculed too much.

My youthful hormones tell me your idea that me being cisgender is a "choice" is so much bunk. How can a thinking man who claims to be cisgender say that? Women drove me nuts, and it was simultaneously a curse and the most wonderful thing in life. That was no "choice".

Now one fellow on line told me after dating young Filipinas that he'd gone back to living with his ladyboy gf because he was treated better. That was a choice. :)