I still have no idea what LurkerMom would want to say to (or do to?) a trans person that wouldn't be allowed, given LM's claim that they wouldn't go out of their way to be inconsiderate. But if there is something, it would probably fall under an analogous rubric - if you have an internal belief that just requires you to discriminate against another group, it's probably on you to arrange your life to avoid situations where you would have that discriminatory interaction with that other group. You probably don't get to say that they should suffer the negative impacts. But again, I don't really know what LM is really referring to, here.
albaby

And I don't have a clue what you are talking about. Drop your analyzing lawyer bit.

Picture this, You and I having a cordial conversation without me having to tiptoe around avoiding or using certain pronouns, phrases or what have you. Me just being me without having to think can I say this or do I avoid saying that and you speaking in terms you normally use, (lawyer jargon ;)) just two friends having a conversation.

So if I were having a conversation with a transperson I would have no problem with s/he
speaking in terms s/he would rather use and I expect the same for me, again, just two friends having a conversation.

We have a large Amish community in my area. I frequent their Nursery and small grocery store. The Amish avoid certain words and use another in its place. I converse as I normally do. No one is offended and neither really don't care.