It certainly appears that you're getting the best advice. Accepting it brings such ambivalence. You know it's the right thing, the kindest thing to do for your mom. But for you, you know that the inevitable loss is now close at hand.

Hospice care refers to the nature of the care, not to the specific place where it occurs. My dad's hospice care was at his nursing home. He remained in his room, but his medications were stopped. He was refusing to take food. But he did finally accept water. And he was given a very low dose of morphine to make him comfortable. And hospice care is often at home. A friend of mine is a hospice nurse. She visits patients at home and determines their needs. And I have 2 friends whose husbands were in hospice care at home.

My heart goes out to you.