The lower range/smaller tank means you're getting to a "low fuel" situation more frequently. Combine that with the much, much longer time to add fuel, and you dramatically ramp up the chances of encountering a problem in your day-to-day. IMHO, that's the issue. Not planning out road trips where finding a twenty-minute stop in a five hour drive is relatively easy, but waking up in the morning and realizing you're short on electrons and you don't have an extra twenty minutes in that day's schedule to fix that.

I've long said that EVs aren't practical for most people unless you can charge where you normally park. That's the whole key.

That said, what you have described is the opposite of what I've experienced in my decade as an EV owner. Reason is that if the battery is low, you simply charge it when you park the car. It is second nature. The result is you never have the "oh crap, I'm leaving the house, but I need to get gas on my way" moments. Which means you never have to stop off and get gas when you are running errands. It is an unexpected delight. On the other board, EV owners have described the same feeling.

Where range anxiety kicks in is the marginal trips, where you should have enough range to get there and back but it will be close. That when you start worrying about running the climate controls and such.