so i'm hearing 200k dead civilians is ok, and maybe all of them since any change in course is controversial and\or against BeBe's need to stay in power and out of prison.

No one's saying it's okay. It's horrible that Hamas has committed war crimes by embedding military personnel and equipment in a civilian area, to the point of continually launching military activity from within civilian populations. Hopefully they will be called to account for that.

But because they have committed those war crimes, it is impossible for Israel to conduct responsive military operations against them without there being heavy civilian casualties. Thus, calling for an end to the fighting requires hard choices - does the fighting end with Hamas surrendering and releasing their captives, or does the fighting end with Israel withdrawing and Hamas remaining both in power and in control of the hostages? Or some combination of both?